Unlike your usual sex toys such as dildos and vibrators, anal toys are different. This is especially so if you’ve never done anal play. There is a process to breaking it in and getting used to the size, texture and even the shape of your new anal toy.
Unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t as flexible. Even worse, it does not self-lubricate and is more prone to tearing and injuries. Not being careful when using your new anal toy can end you up in an embarrassing situation in a hospital.
So start with the number one tip that anal play lovers will always give you: use a lot of lube. Personal lubrication can help you slide in your new anal toy smoother and with less pain. Do check the usage instructions of your new anal toy to find out which lubricant will match the materials, for instance you shouldn’t use silicone lube for a silicone toy.
Next, if you’re new to anal play, start small. A monster dildo might be your fancy for vaginal and clitoral stimulation, but it may not be appropriate for activities back there. Anal beads or a slim butt plug would be your ideal jumpoff point for anal sex.
Finally do some stretching, prepare yourself mentally and hold your breath as you insert for the first time. It may seem uncomfortable but with a little care and gentleness, you will soon be enjoying it. Anal sex helps stimulate a man’s prostate or a woman’s g-spot indirectly. It also adds pressure for a more extreme intercourse. Then there’s the pleasure derived from the opening and closing of the sphincter muscle.