I believe that the sex toy you use in the bedroom should match your relationship level with your partner. Bringing out that whip on the first sex date you have might trap you in a BDSM relationship before you’re ready for it. Set the tone of your sexual relations according to how well you know each other.
For instance, for a first-date naughtiness, I suggest go with something suggestive but not too forward like a vibrating panty. If you really like the person you are dating and want to get into that sexy mood on your first date: be suggestive and mysterious. Give him or her control of the vibrating panty to let your partner know you’re into him/her sexually but you’re not quite ready to jump into bed.
If you’ve reached the comfort level in your sexual and romantic relationship and you’ve explored each other via intercourse, but want to take it to the next level introduce other toys like vibrators or strap-on dildos. These toys are there to stimulate and enhance the experience without pushing the boundaries too far.
If you’re more than comfortable with each other and want to begin really adding spice to your long-term relationship, it’s time to whip out the BDSM stuff or go with something new like anal toys. These are for those who are more than just familiar with their partner but are willing to explore each other deeply.
I suggest taking this approach as with any relationship, the introduction of a new toy can be difficult and even awkward. Do not add more pressure to a relationship that is still finding its footing by pushing your partner to get used to something like a new sex toy.