If someone ever asks what’s the weirdest place I’ve had sex in, I won’t say it’s the public restroom at a pitstop. It’s not even that back alley behind the church. The hands down winner would have to be at a motel beside a funeral parlor. You would ask why there’s a motel in that area in the first place. Well, when you get inside, you’ll know that the owners didn’t miss on this one. Business was simply booming.
There’s a psychological explanation that links sex and grief. Some people find the need to feel anything other than that cold, depressing feeling looming over their heads and turn to sex as a means of escape. Do take note that people who are in a state of grief often do it without any emotions tied into the act. As such, the non-grieving person should fully understand his or her place if this happens. Grief doesn’t last forever, so the sex that you had may or may not end up in a close relationship and maybe over as soon as your partner gets over that feeling.
So now back to my story. Let me make it clear at this point that I wasn’t the one in grief. He was, and he asked for it. I felt too guilty to say no (and I did love the guy). This is what I have to say, the raw sexuality of the act, like he had to release so much hurt in him, was unbearably good for me. That’s one way to look at it.
But sticking to what I said earlier, if you find yourself in the grieving end of the relationship, try to find other ways to deal with it. Sex is tempting and may seem like the fast and easy solution, if you’re with someone you trust and love, then do it. However, if you’re tempted to do it with just anyone, hold off on it. A good alternative is to find pleasure by yourself, use a vibrator. If you really want to jolt yourself from the pain, try a monster dildo. These sex toys work just as good as releasing emotions and replacing that feeling of emotional pain with physical pleasure and temporarily letting you escape to a different world.